I’m fully aware that we’re all strong, independent women, but let’s face it, our partners do mean a lot to us, especially when we’ve been together for quite a while and realized that they may just be …our soulmate.
But as it usually goes, you may still have some doubts about it. Do you really love him? If yes, does he love you as much as you love him? Or is it just physical attraction that one or both of you may be feeling?
Believe it or not, finding out if he really is your soulmate is not that complicated. All you have to do is analyze some of your feelings and behaviors. Take a look at the things that I’ve listed below – the more you can relate to them, the more likely your boyfriends is “the one.”
Your relationship has never been fraught with difficulties
You know those couples who seem to be arguing all the time? The ones who never really see eye to eye on anything? The ones where there’s always rumors of either him or her sleeping around?
Don’t worry, this is not what you and your significant other should be like. In fact, this brief description above is the exact opposite of a healthy relationship. The thing is, couples like these never really manage to stand the test of time.
If your boyfriend is indeed the one, things should pretty much always go smoothly between you. It should all feel natural, and not forced. If the two of you really love each other, you will never encounter any major issues.
Also, steer clear of men who ask you to make too many uncomfortable compromises. Doing this is a sign that they’re not yet ready to accept you the way you are.
Your family likes him
At times, boyfriends don’t really get along with their girlfriend’s parents. It just happens. But if your partner truly loves you, then he will go out of his way to please them and earn their approval. A man who doesn’t lift a finger to improve his relationship with the people who may one day become his in-laws just doesn’t care enough about you.
Oh, an extra piece of advice: If your family doesn’t like the guy, chances are that there’s something slightly fishy with him. And the same principle applies to close friends too.
But why should you even care about their opinion? Well, they probably know you better than you know yourself, and they’re usually one step ahead of you in assessing trouble.
He is madly in love with you
And he’s not afraid to show it! So if your boyfriend looks like he’s constantly fascinated by the way you do your hair, the way you walk, the way you talk and so on and so forth, then he’s not just smitten. A soulmate is always sort of admiring you and he doesn’t hesitate to lavish praise on you, even when you’re wearing an XXL hoodie with the worst bed head in the world.
You have similar views on important issues
The fact that opposites attract is only true to a certain degree. Your soulmate is supposed to be a person that has largely the same values as you. I’m talking about the really important stuff here, like wanting to tie the knot or have kids.
If you don’t have the same opinion on such matters, then I’m afraid you are not meant to last.
You’re ready to stop looking
Let’s face it, throughout a lifetime, you meet dozens of people that you are attracted to. Fewer than that – but still a good number of them – are compatible with you. To be bluntly honest, chances are that there are still many people that you could easily get into a meaningful relationship with out there, but there real question is, are you ready to settle for this one person and give up everyone else?
Remember that assessing whether your boyfriend is soulmate material or not depends on how you feel about the situation too.
Your gut instinct’s telling you he’s your soulmate
And this is by far and away the most important thing that you have to consider. If your partner truly is your the one, you won’t have any doubts about it. You will not ask yourself ‘But what if we break up?’ late at night, because deep down, you know that you’re going to be together for a very, very long time. Something tells you that you’re meant for each other, and if that’s not the most beautiful feeling in the world, then I don’t know what is.
So what do you think? Is he the one?